It’s rare that I find a novel’s ending even remotely satisfying.
However, because there exists just so many reasons why this happens to be the case, I’m not about to explore all those reasons why right here and now.
Suffice to say, there are only two novel endings, from within the great many I have read, that impressed themselves enough upon me so as to warrant my remembering them as suitably memorable.
The first is the ending to John Steinbeck’s Grapes of Wrath. (NB I would feel bad spoiling the end of the novel by describing it to you now, if you haven’t already read it. So if you don’t know how the book ends, please don’t read beyond this point.)
Anyway, for those of you still with me, what I’m trying to say is that the scene in which Rose of Sharon breastfeeds a starving man had a profound impact on me, one which I continue to feel to this very day. The profoundly redemptive nature of the term “the milk of human kindness” was brought home to me in a such a literal and powerful way by this passage that I will never forget it.
In a completely different way, the ending to Tom Robbins Still Life with Woodpecker has also stayed with me for decades after my reading it. While obviously a much lighter work than the Grapes of Wrath overall, I still found the ending to this novel to be equally memorable. And it is the one simple sentence with which the novel ends that I have always remembered, namely: “It’s never too late to have a happy childhood.”
But why does this line mean so much to me?
Well, firstly, I suppose, because it highlights the fact it’s never too late to fix something from our pasts. But, also secondly, because it suggests how we view life is merely a matter of choice.
Really, who’s to say as adults we can’t choose to experience the happy childhood we might feel we missed out on the first time around?
So what that your parents didn’t let you buy that pet goldfish you always wanted as a kid? Big deal! Go out and buy yourself one now you’re all “growed up”. It’s still just as cool an idea. And hating your parents all these years later isn’t achieving anything, is it?
So go out and buy that fish! Or pair of roller-skates, or black nail polish. Learn to play congas or take up the bagpipes. Die your hair freakin’ purple or run around under the sprinkler naked in the backyard. Have a tantrum about not wanting to go to bed and stay up all night eating chocolate and watching TV until you get square eyes!
Ultimately, I don’t know what it is you think you might have personally missed out on. But whatever it is, it’s not too late to experience it now. It’s really just a matter of choice.
Put another way, you could say the concept of a happy childhood is merely a state of mind. Whatever, life’s too short not to give yourself second chances at things. So why not the chance of a second childhood just the way you always wished it had been?
April 10th, 2013 at 10:10 pm
I have thought about this many times. The one problem I run into is that I think I overcompensate with my own children. I tend to give them more than they need and more than they even want at times trying to live vicariously through their experiences and giving them what I didn’t have.
April 10th, 2013 at 10:42 pm
Yes, interestingly, while I didn’t mention it in the piece itself, all the time I was writing it, I was thinking how oftentimes it’s when we become parents ourselves that we quite naturally find ourselves re-exploring our own neglected childhood needs.
And, yes, this does also lead to the danger of trying to live vicariously through our kids.
Just a couple of days ago I bought an expensive remote-control helicopter ostensibly for my son, who all the while insisted as I was paying for it that he didn’t want said present in the slightest. But by God, I’ve always wanted one of those things! 🙂
April 10th, 2013 at 10:44 pm
Thank goodness someone else gets it.
April 10th, 2013 at 10:59 pm
The paradox seems to be that while our kids can make us feel very old suddenly, they also help us stay young.
April 10th, 2013 at 10:59 pm
I agree. I thank them for reminding me it isn’t all about work all the time!
April 11th, 2013 at 1:57 am
Tell me about it, I’ve just had to spend the last few hours playing ping pong, instead of getting on top of a whole bunch of stuff!
April 11th, 2013 at 2:22 am
But it sounds so fun:)
April 11th, 2013 at 5:00 am
It gets a bit tricky when you’re playing against someone with a John McEnroe-style temper, though!
April 11th, 2013 at 5:06 am
Lol a son?
April 11th, 2013 at 5:13 am
Part son, part orangutan.
April 11th, 2013 at 5:15 am
Mine too lol
April 11th, 2013 at 5:55 am
Great post- it’s inspired me to think of the book’s that have made an impact on me with a great ending. Hmm.
Love the ‘it’s never too late’ philosophy. Take responsibility and choose. Look after your attitude and your actions. Love it!
April 11th, 2013 at 2:05 pm
Have you got a short-list yet of books with great endings? I’m intrigued to know, if you do. Please share!